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“Fuck! What was that?!” was my first thought.
“Damn, I want to do that again!” was my second.
The look on my boyfriend’s face was priceless.
Ever have an amazing orgasm only to be left wondering in horror if you just urinated all over somebody?
Relax and pat yourself and/or your partner on the back for you may have just achieved the mystical, controversial and often repressed wet orgasm (aka squirting, gushing). Sure there’s plenty of porn dedicated to women soaking the bed like fire hydrants during epic orgasms, but female ejaculation is rarely that dramatic which leads many to question its existence. Those of us lucky enough to have achieved or witnessed a squirting orgasm can confirm: Yes, they are startling and the sheer volume of cum may necessitate a few extra towels, but the truth is…squirting orgasms ARE REAL!
What is it?
“Nothing like getting a face full of lady-juice to boost that ego.” – Dave*
That “lady-juice” Dave refers to is not urine as researchers once believed. New research disproves the myth that the phenomenon known as “female ejaculation’ is the result of involuntary urination. Lab analysis has revealed that the fluid seen flying across the beds and down the legs of women everywhere is very similar to male ejaculate in chemical composition. This has given birth to the hypothesis that the excretory paraurethral glands (aka Skene’s glands or female prostate) are the female counterpart of the male prostate gland and responsible for the “squirting” orgasm.
The sensation women experience while having a wet orgasm is frequently described as warm and intense and often accompanied by clitoral and vaginal contractions. “Observers” report a noticeable swelling of external and internal vaginal tissues and a warm (sometimes repeated and forceful) gush of fluid bearing no resemblance to urine.
Then why haven’t we all turned into cum-gushing fountains?
Unfortunately, not all women are able to experience female ejaculation as examinations have shown that women’s prostrates are not always able to be found, active, or even present. The glands responsible for producing female ejaculate are nearly invisible without dissection and rarely palpable to touch so the only way for a woman to know she can ejaculate is to achieve it.
So, Ladies and Gents: find those ecstasy buttons by familiarizing yourselves with the female reproductive anatomy through these cool 3D graphics.
There are probably also more women squirting than we realize! As a society, the discussion and exploration of women’s sexuality has been repressed for centuries. Scientists still have many mysteries to solve regarding female arousal. The anatomy of the female orgasm is complex, poorly understood, and contributes to the fact many women don’t understand their own bodies. Bigger and better orgasms for men have always been a focus in the medical community, adult entertainment industry, and media while female sexuality is still considered relatively taboo.
Lack of female sexual awareness and education leads to women experiencing embarrassment and the urge to repress themselves when it comes to achieving a “wet” orgasm. Many are afraid that their partner will think that the warm gush of fluid is urine or that that they will be turned off by the sight. Contrary to some women’s fears, informal polling (ok…I asked some friends and Googled the internet) suggests that squirting is actually a turn on.
If you don’t believe me, ladies, here’s what others had to say on the subject:
“Guys find this a turn on because it’s so unusual and generally indicates the girl has had a powerful orgasm.”- Jason*
“If there were such thing as “Man Scouts,” making a woman squirt would be a badge. It’s definitely something that makes you feel ‘accomplished’.”- Valkyrie’s man
“My current girlfriend is the first I’ve ever had that has squirting orgasms and she has since taught me how to have one. Having had many wet orgasms myself now and knowing how great they feel, I love feeling her gush.- Lisa*
(I can personally testify that seeing myself cum while feeling the waves of contractions seizing my clit is exhilarating and very exciting!)
How do I achieve it?
That’s the tricky, sticky part. Women successful in learning to squirt report it happening in varying positions and situations. Some claim to gush during vaginal, anal or oral intercourse or simultaneous anal and vaginal penetration, while some cum with clitoral and/or vaginal stimulation alone. No one position or combination of stimulation is guaranteed to produce a wet orgasm.
Because the para-urethral glands are usually located between the vaginal wall and bladder there is some question as to whether or not the G-spot has any role in wet orgasms. Given the glands’ anatomical location, getting to know your G-spot may help lead to bigger, better and wetter things, ladies!
The single consensus amongst women is that it will not happen unless you are relaxed! Most also agree that if you relax your vaginal muscles at the very moment you feel the urge to repress, the juices will flow.
Tip: The “come hither” finger motion coupled with clitoral stimulation helps me achieve wet orgasm and is very similar to that which stimulates G-spot arousal. A google search may prove useful for“ “how-to” instructions and videos. Also, before trying with a partner, I encourage women to explore themselves alone first. Morning showers are an ideal time/place to start!
So whether you have already achieved this intense type of orgasm or if you are merely curious of its existence, one thing you can be assured of…
Women DO “cum” and cum hard we shall!
No woman should feel ashamed of how her body naturally responds to arousal. So celebrate how complex and varied we are as women and let your lady-juices flow!
*Names have been changed to protect the horny.